The Link Between Sexual Energy and Intentional Living—Especially in Your Second Act

When we think of living with intention, our minds often go to practices like journaling, mindful eating, or meditating before bed. But what if intention wasn’t confined to the spiritual or structured, but extended into the electric, instinctual, and intimate? In the second act of life, intention isn’t a soft whisper. It’s a full-body reclaiming. And that includes pleasure.

The Role of Sexuality in Our Wellness

Sexuality is not separate from our wellness—it’s central to it. Embracing our sensuality, exploring self-love, and giving ourselves permission to experience pleasure is a radical act of wholeness, especially in midlife. According to Juliet Allen, sexologist and founder of Pleasure School, our sexual energy isn’t just about sex. It’s our life force energy.

“When our sexual energy is feeling balanced and healthy, we are able to use that energy to drive our purpose and our passions,” say Allen. “It’s like having extra fuel in our tank and extra vitality stores when we wake each morning. When we feel depleted, stressed, and uninspired, our sexual energy often takes a hit, and our body goes into survival mode, decommissioning our libido so that we can get the bare minimum done.”

This is especially common today, as daily stressors accumulate. Allen notes that this stress often lodges in the body, physically tightening and dampening desire.

The Foundations of Pleasure School

Through years of work as a sexologist, Allen has developed a deeply holistic approach to sexual wellness. Instead of focusing solely on the physical act, she teaches how to access sexual energy as a source of joy and vitality in every part of life. Her immersive digital platform, Pleasure School, is built on a foundation of education, embodiment, and intentionality—helping individuals connect with themselves and their desires on a deeper level.

Allen explains that humans are wired for intimacy when it comes to connection and contact. “It’s normal and natural for us to yearn for human touch and intimacy, and this contributes to feel-good hormones being produced in our body,” she says.

But before we connect with others, we must return to ourselves. Allen encourages self-love and daily self-touch rituals as vital nourishment—not just foreplay but soul-play. For a deeper dive, explore her Self Pleasure 101 guide. Her work also emphasizes using natural, body-safe products that support pleasure without disrupting our body’s rhythm, because comfort, she says, is not optional. It’s essential.

Intentional Pleasure

If we’re practicing intention in our morning routines and boundary-setting, why not bring that same energy into the bedroom—or wherever pleasure meets us? Allen believes that mindful sexuality is not only possible but powerful.

“We can enter into sexual encounters and relationships with others consciously—meaning we choose mindfully, tuning into the four centers in our body to support us to choose the right people to share our energy and pleasure with.”

“When we set intentions for our sexual experiences, we literally supercharge them with energy, and our pleasure potential increases,” Allen adds.

She explores this concept further in her Embodied Pleasure in Business Masterclass. You might begin to notice greater intimacy with a partner, more connection to your own body, or even a spark of “orgasmic energy” in everyday moments. That energy, Allen says, doesn’t just stay in the bedroom—it ripples into your creativity, clarity, and the confidence to manifest what you truly want.

Embracing Your Second Act of Sensuality

No matter where you are on your pleasure journey—single, partnered, healing, or just beginning—there’s always room to reawaken. Allen says that great sex with others starts with a deep connection to self.

“Self-love comes in all forms. Self-pleasure is one of them. And in my opinion, it’s really important we all master the art of self-pleasure,” Allen shares.

Her advice: start slow. “Take out the end goal of orgasm, and enjoy exploring your body and your pleasure zones. Then once you have mastered your own pleasure, you are able to connect with lovers and share what you have learnt with them, teaching them about what turns you on.”

Allen often discusses the connection between sensuality and personal power. In this podcast episode, she discusses how she uses visualization and sex magic as tools for healing, empowerment, and manifestation.

She also encourages ongoing curiosity. Explore new ways of expressing love, try holistic sex education, and surround yourself with a community that sees pleasure not as a luxury but as a necessity. “We are a product of our environment and the people we spend time with—be mindful of this in the area of your sex life.”

Whether you’re redefining desire or just remembering it, know this: pleasure is your birthright. In your second act, you reclaim it—on your terms, at your pace, and with every intention to enjoy the ride.